Category Archives: Life strategies

Three Tips to Maintain Your Cool During Conflict + Defuse Conflict in the Workplace Webinar

14 Apr 2012

Understanding the unconscious messages you send and how they harm or enhance your part in conflict can determine your career future. On April 24th, join Sharon Sayler, MBA, CEC, behavioral communications expert and founder of Competitive Edge Communications for more information on defusing workplace conflict through what you say and how you say it, join our webinar: Courage under Fire: How to Defuse Conflict in the Workplace presented on April 24.

Feelin’ Like A Fool: How To Spot A Liar

1 Apr 2012

“Fool” is such a loaded word, full of guilt and shame… and I often hear “How could I have been such a fool?” We’ve all had that moment where we realize we’ve been taken advantage of, where we stop and say, “How could that have happened?” So, why do we fall for a lie and can we spot a liar? The short answer is, as in much of life, “It depends.”

You don’t realize how important some things are until you stop doing them

13 Mar 2012

You don’t realize how important some things are until you stop doing them – take breathing for instance…. Breathing seems natural enough, we do it on ‘auto-pilot’ — thank goodness! Can you imagine what it would be like if you had to remind yourself to breathe in, breathe out?

Yet, is your breathing auto-pilot working correctly?

How to deal with meeting malaise

11 Mar 2012

A meeting without an agenda is like a journey without a map…. Today’s guest expert International Productivity Expert Athenée Mastrangelo from www.ActionChaos.com shares with us the 5 steps for running an effective meeting. I don’t know about you, but nothing makes my eyes roll faster and farther into my head than meetings than just drag on and on…. How effectively are you running your meetings?

Words do change minds

4 Mar 2012

Extrovert and Introvert are ‘shorthand labels’ used to describe our innate abilities and preferences to regulate our impulses, our resiliency, the way we choose to communicate and influence and our leadership style to name just a few. We can perpetuate the idea that introversion is a negative or we can choose to see the two different types for what they are: different, but not better or worse. Words do change minds.

‘Fake It Until You Make It’ WILL NEVER Work.

25 Feb 2012

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‘Fake It Until You Make It’ Never Works because FAKING IS FAKING, let me explain~

How you talk to yourself is directly reflected in your nonverbal communication. You can’t stop it, how you feel – ‘fake’ie’ – comes through loud and clear…. You say ‘fake it,’ and your mind does just that, IT FAKES IT.

Did you know that 90 to 95% of what we do comes from habit or the unconscious mind. That’s HUGE! It’s necessary too. Imagine having to tell yourself having to breathe in – breathe out….

Eros Errors That Ruin Relationships

14 Feb 2012

Although Valentines Day can make people feel trapped. This is one of those days so pack with emotion that the ‘landmines’ are literally underfoot, waiting for the tongue to trip up and set off a cascade of unintended events. In my one-to-one coaching, I often hear how this day is fraught with emotions – both positive and negative. It’s packed with opportunity to create more love, or more fights, even loneliness can consume our thoughts.

A few years ago being single and on the road on this fateful day, I went into a ‘fancy’ restaurant for dinner and was refused service as I was dining alone…. The expectations surrounding this day abound!!

What’s In Your Toolbox?

15 Jan 2012

Thinking thoughts like,

“I’ve done that before.”
“Oh, I’ve heard of that. Doesn’t work.”
“Sounds too hard.”
“I have to do WHAT?”

Know How To Say “No”

21 Dec 2011

A couple days ago guest blogger Gary Ryan Blair shared 15 ideas to save you time, energy and money in “What is this two-letter word costing you?”. But, how do you say no? In business, saying no is often about respecting and valuing your most precious commodity, your time. So, How To Say “No”

When you must say no, be direct. Saying no is not a time to beat around the bush. Although no often sounds more polite with a short pre and/or post-amble, “I’m sorry, I can’t,” just begs for a reply of “But why?” A short explanation proactively stops the inevitable “Why?”

What is this two-letter word costing you?

19 Dec 2011

I know, even the thought of saying “No” can cause stress. All sorts of commitments dash through your head. “I can’t say “No, to .” and “My needs me!” Saying “No” brings up all sorts of negative emotions especially guilt.

If it makes you feel any better, you’re not alone.

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