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As a child, I used to play card game after card game, Crazy Eights, Old Maid, Hearts, Spoons, etc., with my beloved Aunt Myrtle. Each match, she made me create a strategy from what I was dealt. Even if one round went badly, the game kept going, round after round. Even the worst hand could end up winning with some luck and a solid focus.

What Aunt Myrtle’s child’s play taught me about life:

1. Quit tolerating mediocre. To attract the results I want, I must commit the time and space to learn the rules of the game to receive the results I want.

2. Choices will hold me accountable. Before I act, I will know my intention and desired outcome(s).

3. Stay focused. Most problems are solved the same way; it’s just the details that are different.

4. Stop wasting time on the shoulda, coulda, and what-ifs of life. Know that I can let go, to go in the direction I want.

5. Think from multiple points of view at the same time. Imagination and creative thinking drive results. Results drive outcomes.

6. Do not force an outcome. Outcomes may arrive differently than I expect. I will leave room for luck to amaze me and be grateful when it does.

7. Implement your plan in a direction that is simple and flexible.

8. Play win-win regardless of who wins. It’s a game of hearts. Dismiss the glass-half-full or half-empty perspective. I have a glass. Share it.

Regardless of the game’s name, the best (and worst) part of the game is it’s up to me (and maybe a bit of luck) to get the results I want.

Thank you, Aunt Myrtle, so far, so good.

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– Is there physical, mental, and emotional clutter just hanging around?

– Are you holding on to ideas that no longer serve a purpose?

– Do you feel disorganized – physically, emotionally, and mentally?

Mind-clutter- things, ideas, and emotions that are blocking you from your potential.

1. Identify the essential. What is important?
2. Identify what to eliminate. What’s not essential?
3. Recognize the impacts of both essential and eliminate.
4. Let go.
5. Create strategies to stay de-cluttered.

“Three Rules of Work: Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.” ~Albert Einstein

Have a great day whatever your adventure.

To Success! To Life!

Sharon

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Some boundaries can be easily recognized, other boundaries can be stealth…. Those recognized and those that are stealth differ for everyone based on past experiences, unconscious bias, limited beliefs etc. A common boundary issue I see plays out like this:

• You are overwhelmed with demands that are made on you which have nothing to do with your job.
• People are disrespectful of your time, your work, and of YOU!
• You do things for people you hardly know at the expense of your family or friends and your own mental and physical well-being.

Protect Your Yes.

To master your “No” you must first know your “Yes.”  Your “yes(s)” are those people, places, and things that are important enough to you that you want to share your most limited resource with them – your time! Too often we put what and who is most important to us last — because we rationalize that “they will understand.’  This was happening to Fran.* Fran asked me what to do about Sue*, a coworker. Sue is a “nice person,” according to Fran but she is perpetually late with projects and excels at making her tardiness Fran’s emergency.

Fran wanted me to help change Sue’s behavior… and she was disappointed to discover that rarely works, and not the problem. The real problem is Fran has trained Sue that she will bail her out at the last minute – every time.  Fran and I worked on a script that she recently used with Sue – several times. (Sometimes, it takes time to “un-train” them.)

To politely prioritize her “yes” Fran says with a smile: “I understand your dilemma Sue, and I already have commitments to other team members / clients / a volunteer organization …. I’m sure you can see how doing your work wouldn’t be fair to them. It’s important that we all follow through on what we promised to do, isn’t it?  All the best with your project.”

Now, I know that sounds a bit contrived, a script is always just for practice. It will sound different each time, and you will develop your own style. The main concepts are to acknowledge that you listened to them and that you have other commitments that require and/or already have your ‘yes.’

Fran recently mentioned that Sue is still always in a last-minute-panic, but it’s no longer Fran’s responsibility to save her and Sue is learning new skills of organization and time management (whether she really wanted to or not… but that wasn’t our problem—was it?)

What has not knowing how to say “NO” cost you…?

*Names chosen to protect confidentially and are not their real names

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 ~Sharon Sayler

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Stop faking it! You are not making your life any easier.

The problem with the old saying, “Fake it until you make it,” is you are unconsciously thinking, “I’m faking it.” In turn, it feels fake, as in being someone or something else, not you.

When trying not to be you, your instinctive body language will come through loud and clear.

Think about body language as your shadow; wherever you go, whatever you do, there you are.

Observers believe your body language first and foremost. Even if your gift of gab has bedazzled the listener, they will say, “Yes, but something isn’t quite right.” The listener’s conscious mind might win that round and accept what they heard, but the unconscious mind always knows something “fake” is happening behind the scenes.

How you talk to yourself about yourself is directly reflected in your body language. Your body language will show in micro-expressions, and little “tells” if you try to hold in your non-fake thoughts and emotions.

Your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and actions all merge in the unconscious mind, and they flow from your beliefs.

Within us, faking doesn’t work because the unconscious mind is literal — very literal.

Try it out — tell yourself, “Don’t think of a pink elephant.” What is in your mind right now even though you told yourself not to think pink elephant?
Your BIG pink elephant gets reinforced in your memory every time you read the two words — pink elephant.

The unconscious mind takes every word you say to yourself as fact. If we say, “fake it,” then that’s what the unconscious mind does! IT FAKES IT! And, it shows.
If I can’t fake it-what can I do?

Choose someone you admire for the specific skill(s) you would like to learn or adopt.* Let’s call that person your Behavior-Buddy. Then observe them using those behaviors you wish to try out.

Since your actions are tied to your thoughts and emotions, strategically and intentionally choose the activities and behaviors, you would use to get the result(s) you want, filtering through three questions.

Observe your behavior-buddy and take mental note of the answers:
1. What skills or behaviors are they using to get the results I would like?
2. When do they choose to use those skills?
3. Why then and not other times?

Then, choose your time and place to practice those behaviors and skill(s) as if you already are an expert.

For example, a friend of mine is an extrovert. He gives a whole new meaning to the word extrovert as I do introvert. As such, he has no problem walking up to strangers that “look interesting” and starting a conversation.

Some of the skills I admire are:

• Even in new situations, he breathes comfortably with no rapid or shallow breathing that most people do when they feel anxious.
• He then walks up to someone he’s never met and introduces himself, and says non-invasive yet personal statements or questions such as “that’s a great tie,” or “those are great looking shrimp, did you find them at the buffet table?”
• He then gauges how receptive the person(s) is to further conversation and if he thinks “yes,” he asks another question like “What brought you here tonight?” Simple and effective ice breakers.

There are times I would like to do what he does so easily, such as at networking events or parties. So when I’m not getting the results I want, or I am talking myself out of meeting someone at a networking event, I ask myself, “What would he do?”

I metaphorically step into his shoes and Act-As-If, I’m him, all while being me. I know it might sound silly, but Act-As-If works. When I step into Act-As-If, the unconscious adopts the movements, communication patterns, and positive thoughts and emotions necessary to make it work because I’ve shown it an example of what I want.

The stories I tell, the topics I chat about, the questions I ask are all ones I would typically ask once I felt comfortable. Since it’s still me, it shows my unconscious mind how easy it is to do the behaviors I had previously resisted doing — mainly because it didn’t “feel” safe.

The success I’ve experienced with Act-As-If reinforces the desire to keep using the new skills. Each time I choose to use the extrovert skillset, I’ve seen that I already had the needed skills in each situation.

My unconscious mind, thoughts, and feelings no longer tell me I can’t do “that” since I’ve already had the experience through Act-As-If.

Remember, “Act-As-If” is not “fake it until you make it.” Telling yourself “to fake it” is faking it. The brain knows the meaning of “fake,” and it will make it look fake… so trash that model and Act-As-If….

You will be amazed at how quickly you adapt your behavior-buddy’s success skills without even realizing it.

PINK ELEPHANT…

See what I mean, contagious isn’t it?

Enjoy the adventure,

Sharon

* Now, I don’t recommend Act-As-If (or faking it for that matter) for mimicking brain surgery or rocket science or similar, but I think you get the idea of how this works…

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on August 9th, 2018. Updated October 19th, 2021.

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There are 2 ways to fix everything — my broadband service originally choose the first way, the immediate “fix.” To them, I had cancelled my service, and “there was nothing that could be done.”

According to the service rep, there was no way the account could have been cancelled unless I had done it and it could not be reinstate. When I asked to speak to a supervisor, I was told “He will not tell you anything I haven’t told you…”

Today, it seems as if many companies are fine with the superficial and immediate solution — solve the customer’s immediate problem or make the customer go away.

This is not the way to create a long-term, loyal customer. Fortunately for my broadband provider, I need this particular service. I was not about to go away — “No” was not the answer I needed. Most companies are not so lucky to have customers that need them, the competition is fierce in most industries.

The second way — taking the time to figure out and correct the error — is what the provider ended up doing anyway, so why didn’t we just start there?

(They found their error and I have my account back.) Don’t take “NO” for an answer…

“I never give up, I never give in, and I don’t take “no” for an answer.”
~Doris Roberts (1925 – 2016) Actress~

Have a great day in whatever your adventure,

To success! To Life!

Sharon

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It’s that time of year again, but amidst your well-wishes and season’s greetings do you ever find yourself praying that a certain family member just won’t show up this year or dreading the hours of shopping you’ll have to do to make sure everyone gets the perfect gift?

It might sound harsh, but it’s true: At times, the holidays can feel like you’ve been given the gift of more stress with a bright red bow of dissatisfaction plopped on top.

Thankfully, just in time for the wrapping paper to start flying and the turkey to be passed, here’s some timely tips that will help you de-stress and enjoy this year’s holiday fun.

A great way to prevent the stress-filled aspects of the season from souring family gatherings and friendly get-togethers is by paying close attention to your nonverbal responses (i.e. your body language, facial expressions, and breathing patterns).

Before any potentially stressful holiday event, take a few minutes, breathe deep and plan your responses to stress ahead of time. By setting in motion a new pattern of behaviors, you can improve your stress level around the holidays this year and for years to come.

Read on for seven strategies to mix and match to have the perfect holiday season we all dream about:

1. No response can be the best response. When your egg nog-happy uncle starts asking you questions about your personal life or an annoying coworker won’t stop gossiping about people at work, the best response might be to politely extract yourself from the conversation. You might first try smiling and directing the conversation to another subject. If that doesn’t work, gently move on to a different area of the party. By avoiding the stresses of continuing these painful conversations, you can often help preserve these relationships and prevent a situation where you really feel like you have to be stern with the person.

You might first try smiling and directing the conversation to another subject. If that doesn’t work, gently move on to a different area of the party. By avoiding the stresses of continuing these painful conversations, you can often help preserve these relationships and prevent a situation where you really feel like you have to be stern with the person.

#2 Go to your happy place. When a stressor moment begins, think of the happiest memories you have. Some of my happiest memories are the births of my sons,. Each time I think of those, I smile automatically and begin to relax. Holding those happy thoughts changes your body language and your thoughts concerning the current situation. Yes, you really can ‘head-fake’ yourself out of a negative reaction.

#3 Use the buddy system. Chances are you’re not the only one in your family who dislikes your “new” aunt or the only one of your friends who thinks a friend’s new boyfriend is rude and abrasive. So enlist your holiday comrades and work with each other to intervene when your ‘new’ aunt won’t stop chatting your head off or that bad boyfriend drops an insult you can’t forgive. Prepare ahead of time by arranging for the other person to drop a well-timed question into the conversation or by giving you a task to do that would remove you from the situation.

#4 Use positive gestures of relationship to set the tone. Using an open, upward facing palm, gesture with your forearm and hand to the person most likely to start the negative situation. While you slowly gesture—remember, keep your palm up and open—comment on how ‘wonderful the decorations are this year. As you get to the word ‘wonderful’ be sure to have your fingers of the open palm gesture pointing directly at the likely offender. You have just nonverbally called them ‘wonderful.’ Continue the day assigning all the positive words you say, you’ll be amazed how it can reset the tone.

#5 The opposite is true: “Aim” negativity away. No matter what you’re talking about (or whom you’re talking to!), never use gestures that exhibit negativity toward your fellow holiday guests. You can hurt feelings with your gestures and not even know it. For example, right after Thanksgiving, a coaching client was telling me about how he hurt his aunt’s feelings. He was telling me about an event at work. ‘What a jerk!’ he said, while widely gesturing about the jerk. Before long, his auntie wasn’t listening. He said to me, ‘She looked like she had been insulted.’ She had—he had just called his aunt a jerk, nonverbally. Bottom line, be mindful of your gestures when talking about negative topics.

#6 As your mother might say, watch your mouth. Many situations can be diffused (or inflamed) by intentionally using your voice. In addition to the words you choose, the emphasis, tone, volume, and speed at which you speak, play a crucial role in how someone listens, interprets and reacts to what you say. You can choose all the right words to say and still sabotage your message because it’s the emotional connection to the way you are saying what you’re saying that really resonates with people.  People will remember how you make them feel long after they remember what you said or thought you said. If you’re worried your tone might be negatively affecting those around you, it’s a good time to ‘go to your happy place’ as I advised earlier. Doing so will help improve your tone

You can choose all the right words to say and still sabotage your message because it’s the emotional connection to the way you are saying what you’re saying that really resonates with people.  People will remember how you make them feel long after they remember what you said or thought you said. If you’re worried your tone might be negatively affecting those around you, it’s a good time to ‘go to your happy place’ as I advised earlier. Doing so will help improve your tone

#7 Don’t let your face show what you’re feeling. Your facial expressions tell the world what you are thinking. Monitor your facial expressions. Avoid rolling your eyes, pouting, and frowning. By avoiding these negative facial reactions, you can also keep your own mood up. Research with Botox patients has shown that blocking a frown can change how you think and feel. Thankfully, there’s no Botox needed for a spirit-lifting exercise I recommend. Every time you succeed with a difficult person, find a private place and give yourself a big fist-pump with an out-loud “YES!” It will change your mood or look up, throw your arms up to the sky and do a little victory dance. Feels great, right? That’s because your body movements are tied to your emotions and your emotions are tied to your movements.

Thankfully, there’s no Botox needed for a spirit-lifting exercise I recommend. Every time you succeed with a difficult person, find a private place and give yourself a big fist-pump with an out-loud “YES!” It will change your mood or look up, throw your arms up to the sky and do a little victory dance. Feels great, right? That’s because your body movements are tied to your emotions and your emotions are tied to your movements.

#8 Breathe easy. Train yourself to maintain low, abdominal (natural) breathing. The more you experience the calming effects that low, abdominal breathing has on your body, brain and voice, the easier it is to maintain this breathing in all situations—even during stress-filled holiday shopping trips or hectic family gatherings.

The goal is to maintain natural breathing even while others around you are not. Our breathing supports all our non-verbals, but most importantly, it supports our voice. When people pick up on our voice patterns, they are really reacting to our breathing. How you are breathing at the time determines how you will be perceived. When you and the listener are breathing low and comfortably you are in rapport. If either of you is breathing shallow or rapid, there has been a break in rapport, a distraction or threat. If you remind yourself to breathe comfortably, the situation will diffuse and you can get back to your holiday pleasantries.”

How you are breathing at the time determines how you will be perceived. When you and the listener are breathing low and comfortably you are in rapport. If either of you is breathing shallow or rapid, there has been a break in rapport, a distraction or threat. If you remind yourself to breathe comfortably, the situation will diffuse and you can get back to your holiday pleasantries.”

‘It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it,’ are definitely important words to live by around the holidays.

People really do pay more attention to what your body says than what you actually say. If the holidays tend to send you into a tizzy, then it is a good idea to go into each holiday gathering with a plan. By using your nonverbals to de-stress and actually enjoy the holidays, you’ll find that you come away from this holiday season with a great feeling and even closer relationships with those you love.

About Sharon Sayler: She is a Communications Success Strategist. She shows people simple, powerful, easy to learn ways to communicate and enjoy relationships using mindfulness, courageous verbal and nonverbal communication techniques. Connect with Sharon and get your free gift at www.SharonSayler.com/gift

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There seems to be more stress, pressure and conflict in the workplace than ever before. As budgets tighten, layoffs happen, and higher productivity is expected, tempers inevitably flare. Show your leadership skills by mastering these tips to maintaining a calm presence in the face of conflict and crisis.

Breathe

Keep breathing.  When someone behaves in an unexpected way, it is normal for us to stop breathing momentarily. Breathing low and slowly brings more oxygen to your brain, allowing you to think clearly.  It also slows down your central nervous system response, allowing you to maintain control of yourself and the situation. Think about the best outcome. Choose a win-win resolution.

Be strategic in what you say

During a possible conflict situation, use less first-person pronouns and more third-person pronouns. It can transform a situation. For example, “The report has errors…” instead of “Your report has errors….” Possessive words such as I, my, you and your can lead to defensiveness.

Know the meaning of your eye contact

As you discuss the situation, be selective in the amount of direct eye contact.  Too much direct eye contact can inflame the conflict, especially between two males. The rate at which you blink is also a form of giving or removing eye contact. We tend to blink more when we are under stress, so learn to control your blink rate. If you have a serious message to send, practice extending eye contact without blinking in the mirror. Limited blinking adds to your message’s credibility.

Understanding the unconscious messages you send and how they harm or enhance your part in conflict can determine your career future. There are many other ways to maintain your cool during a conflict – these three are some of my favorites – stay tuned for more.

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Speaking of perfect, have you ever noticed how many of us want the holidays to be perfect?

What the heck is ‘perfect’ anyway? Is it the Norman Rockwell vision of everyone sitting ’round the table with a Martha Stewart turkey? I don’t think I could get that color on a turkey even if I spray-painted it. And who invented brussels sprouts anyway?

Over my morning tea, I pondered ways to make the holidays perfect. Here are 3 ways I came up with. I’m sure there are more, please share yours in the comment section below.

#1 Use your eyebrows. Remember, just because you are asked a stupid (or otherwise) question, it doesn’t mean you have to answer it. If you really want to be bold, a well-timed raised eyebrow and a flash of direct eye-contact just about says it all.

#2 Sit at the kids table. It’s always more fun and the conversation more carefree. “Get the wiggles out at the table by providing a small squeeze toy,” says Janet Allison, (www.boysalive.com) author and founder of Boys Alive! Thanks, Janet, we all get the “wiggles” when we would rather be doing something else….

#3 Keep breathing. Shallow or rapid breathing activates your fight, flight or freeze response. Extend your exhale. It’s during the exhale that your body relaxes. Focus on your breathing also keeps you present in the moment. Stress only happens when our thoughts take us to a past painful event or an expectation of a similar event in the future.  Enjoy each moment as it unfolds, you just might surprise yourself with how stress-free staying present can be.

So there you have it, my 3 chai and sunrise inspired tips to have a perfect holiday…. If you’re celebrating Thanksgiving this week, I wish you a perfect (whatever that means to you) one; and for all, here and around the world, wishing you joy and abundance always.

I am honored that you have chosen to be part of my community and I am able to share and work with you to reach your goals, bring out your “perfect” and create the life of your dreams — that is what makes what I do perfect!

Have a great week whatever your adventure.
To Success! To Life!
Sharon

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In case you didn’t get a chance to read it yet,

Rule #1 is to Know The Value of Your Yes.

Today, I’d like to share:

Rule #2: Size of Ask x Time = # of Yes(es) possible…

Remember it’s not that asking for help is a “bad” thing. It’s a good thing. But sometimes, too much of a good thing turns into a bag thing… Yes, some people need help — that’s different and not part of this equation. Some people ask and ask and ask for help even when they don’t need it and, rarely if ever, consider reciprocity.

I use a “Yes/No budget” when there is a lack of reciprocity. Without reciprocity, relationships can get stressed. One-way relationships rarely work for long.

If you answered, “Yes,” that you know at least one person fueled by “pester power,” it’s time to do the “math” to help you budget your life/time/money/relationships/fill-in-the-blank(s) and bring yourself back into balance.

Okay, let’s jump into the deep end.
How to Determine a “Yes/No” Ratio
First, begin by adding your standing “Yeses” you want to do and or have already agreed to on the calendar. This will show you your available time (or spare time, if you prefer.)

A “Yes/No” budget has three criteria.

Size of Ask: How big is this ask? Do they have other open asks? Experts in “pester power” have “center-of-the-universe’itis,” and they think they are perfectly reasonable in asking you for “just a little favor.” All the while conveniently forgetting just hours ago, they asked for “just one tiny favor” or more.

Time to Complete: How long will it take to complete this ask? Remember, we all have 24/7, and yes, you have to eat, sleep, shower, and meet those standing commitments on your calendar.

Double your time estimate before considering yes or no. Be honest, have you ever completed an “it will just take a minute” in a minute? I haven’t.

Who is Asking: I introduced these criteria in “Value Your “Yes” by Mastering “No.” Use this rule for determining the “Who.” Your “Yes” is for those people, places, and things that are important enough to you that you want to share your most limited resource with them — your time!

For those that like visual aids, we can break it down to this:

• Size of ask(s)
• Time to complete² (that’s squared)
• ÷ Into the time you have available
• Will determine the number of Yes(es) possible
• ± Who (In order of importance, yourself, spouse, children, family, friends, etc.)
• = Yes or No

Other “Yes/No” budget items to consider:
• It’s just not the size of this ask. It’s the size of this ask multiplied by previous asks. Have they used up their “coupons?”
•  What would you be giving up to complete this favor?
• Why you? Can they do it themselves? Why not? Would someone else be a better choice?
• Is the professional pesterer playing the bully, guilt, shame, blame, etc., card?
• Other personal considerations? All are valid.

We all have experts in “Pester-Power” in our life that can suck up all our time, money, creativity, emotions, etc., if we let them — some times we do and some times we don’t. It’s all okay. You get to decide the when.
It’s when not knowing how to say “No” puts you, your career, and those closest to you in a bind.

Too often, we only give lip service to what and who is important to us. Remember, your “yes(es)” are for those people, places, and things you enjoy spending time with. Life’s too short to do anything less.

Updated Oct 22, 2021

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I’ve had clients that know certain suggestions I make would make a difference, yet they steadfastly say, “Come up with a different answer, because I don’t like that.” It could be as simple as writing an email or make a phone call…yet some fear, from somewhere, is keeping them from moving towards what they say they want. That’s resistance sharing the mind-stage with fear….

Then they complain and blame all types of events, people, and situations for not getting what they set out to get. Many even have an “If only I had done…” mind-battle when the moment has passed. That’s guilt now pushing fear and resistance off the mind-stage. Guilt can be a drama queen and often likes to stick around on the mind-stage far too long.

Consider the four most common fears that stop us from reaching our full potential:

F: Failure
E: Embarrassment
A: Awesomeness
R: Rejection

These fears are based on not knowing what will happen next just like most fears. It’s a fear of leaving what you know for what you don’t know. That’s where the axiom for fear as “false evidence appearing real” comes from. I like it, but sometimes the evidence is real or we don’t recognize what we are feeling as fear.

Not knowing is never fun, but thinking we know what’s going to happen next is really a construct of our mind. Do we really truly know what will happen next?  No, we only know what will probably happen next based on what has happened previously. Those moments of not knowing can often feel like a free-fall. It can be uncomfortable. Yet, I haven’t found a way to make great strides in getting what you want without those moments of having to consciously breathe fully and completely, then trusting, just trusting you will know what to do when the time comes.

Living courageously, consciously and mindfully requires us to acknowledge that many parts of us exist including fear, resistance, and guilt. This trio is part of our internal safety gatekeepers. Managing the mental side of the FEAR family is a life-long commitment and being mindful of your triggers and where you resist growth and change will allow you to consciously take control to break through those fears that appear very real. Don’t let these hidden fears of greatness keep you from your full potential.

• Where are you shoving a brick under your own success accelerator…?
• What fears do you allow to stand in your way?

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