The Person Behind The Curtain: Part One

We would all like to think we have perfect poker faces and are less emotionally expressive then we really are.

Poker players try all sort of tricks to cover their face lest, they give away their position. They try all sorts of tricks from biting our lip to holding our breath to keep our emotional face in line with the curtain we want to show the world. Imagine have to bite your lip to walk into a board of directors meeting…? I wouldn’t suggest it.

Are You Sabotaging Your “Cash” Conversations?

In this unpredictable economic and skeptical environment, customers are more discerning and demanding. If you are a service professional, entrepreneur or subject matter expert whose expertise isn’t selling, it’s not always easy to convince clients that you are the right person for the job. The most common challenge that I see experts face is that their emotions accelerate past those of the prospective customer….

Dismissive Body Language The Subtle Relationship Saboteur

First Lady Michelle Obama was caught on video yesterday during the President’s 2013 inaugural luncheon. appearing to roll her eyes in displeasure at the Speaker of the House. Dismissive body language works, if your intention is to show disapproval without saying a word, Be aware though, it is also a subtle saboteur….

In Celebration of Male Watcher Day: How to Attract “That” Guy’s Attention Without Saying A Word

Okay, some quick thoughts on what to do if you want to do more than watch…. Frankly, let your eyes do the talkin’. Poets say the eyes are the window to the soul. They are and they also go right to a guy’s “fascination” button. How much fascination you get depends on how long you “watch” the guy. Staring is stalking so I suggest the 3 Flash Method. Okay, get your mind outta’ there…this is a different type of flashing.

Nonverbal Classroom Management for the Adult Learner

Wow, it was standing room only Thursday at the ASTD – Cascadia 2012 Conference at my session How To Influence Adult Learners Without Saying a Word. A great big round of applauds for the over 60 participants that dived right into playing with nonverbal communication! Attendees learned and practiced nonverbal communications skills to transform their trainings with principles and research-based techniques. The attendees walked out of the room with tips, techniques and tools that they could immediately use to comfortably influence the best in others and communicate with confidence in the classroom.

The Victory Went To The Storyteller in Tonight’s Debate

All in all, Obama was the clear winner connecting with the audience. Obama’s skill as a storyteller and his comfortable deep breathing elicited confidence. His skillful use of the pause, made his message the one remembered. Romney, on the other hand, never consistently connected with the audience. His lack of pausing, his shallow breathing and small gestures undermined his message.