Sharon Sayler

Category: Body Language

A client called the other day and said she missed seeing what ‘Sharon’ had to say on the debates—the VP debate to be precise…. I shared with her that while some were entertained during the VP debates, I, for one, was not. I have absolutely no patience for rude people! There, I said it.

Body Language is a game changer

Will Biden be ready to command attention to counterbalance the lackluster Obama performance? Will his gestures will be large and his delivery style forceful, reminiscent of an old-time preacher?

Will Ryan be ready with equal energy to respond to a fiery delivery? Can he encapsulate his facts and figures into a compelling strategic vision, to counteract an argument that evokes strong emotion?

I don’t read minds. I read body language, so I’m not going to speculate on the “why” of the head tilt / toe rock, except to say this combination unconsciously signals to others that this person would be easy to ‘knock-off-balance.’
Mr. President, this is NOT a power posture, maybe your shoes were too tight….

Mr. President, this is NOT a power posture.

As we pull into another village stop, I see a name, “Abfahrt.” A gentleman boards, wanders over to the vacant seat across from mine and says something I cannot understand.

I presume it to be Swiss. It has a Germanic crispiness but isn’t German… and it’s unlike the flowing pattern of French. I smile, raise my palm, open and up, in an outward sweeping movement toward the seat. He immediately sits down.

“Fool” is such a loaded word, full of guilt and shame… and I often hear “How could I have been such a fool?” We’ve all had that moment where we realize we’ve been taken advantage of, where we stop and say, “How could that have happened?” So, why do we fall for a lie and can we spot a liar? The short answer is, as in much of life, “It depends.”

You don’t realize how important some things are until you stop doing them – take breathing for instance…. Breathing seems natural enough, we do it on ‘auto-pilot’ — thank goodness! Can you imagine what it would be like if you had to remind yourself to breathe in, breathe out?

Yet, is your breathing auto-pilot working correctly?

Writing to you from seat 4C on my flight to JFK this morning. As I leave Miami’s 78F temperatures I’m not looking forward to the balmy 35F in NYC today….. Burrrr.  But, I’m on TV tonight and speaking at the Yale School of Management tomorrow, so off I go. If you follow my blog much […]

Have you considered we all understand a different language, even when we speak the “same” language…?
When you’re in a foreign country, your experience is richer if you understand and speak the language. We constantly convey messages TO our children—messages of what-to-do, of safety and well-being, of morality and self-esteem. Yet, are we speaking THEIR language so they can understand us? When you know HIS language – and speak it – he will be able to hear you better!

3 Tips on How to Observe What is Really Happening in a Room

For our leaders of tomorrow, and anyone else that desires to enhance their communications skills, one of the first skills to harness is the power of mindful observation. The value of training our observation skills is to bring the subtle or the nuance of what we are observing to our conscious awareness.

Haggling is not part of the common culture, at least for me, in the United States. When I was encouraged to haggle here in China, it was really my first experience with hard-line haggling. Sure, “Is this your best price?” has left these lips before and I’ve asked for discounts back home — I’ve even haggled in Europe and Africa — but nothing compares to the art of haggling in China.