Sharon Sayler

How To Set Boundaries Without Damaging Relationships,
Sacrificing Sales or Sabotaging Your Career

Are you plagued by “scope-creep?”

 

Do people dump “stuff” on you that isn’t your job?

    
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Oh “NO!”  
You just heard your mouth say, “yes” when inside your head you are still screaming, “Say No! Say No!”  You caved… yet again  

Now you’re stuck… and once again you find yourself asking, “Why do people have to be so demanding, so difficult?”   

  

In that instant you now have to change your plans, juggle your calendar and try to figure out how you can make it work (or get out of it gracefully – maybe cousin Ed can have a heart attack again), all the while your inner voice is screaming “If I say ‘no’, they’re not going to like me… You idiot, you fool… I should have seen it coming… what’s wrong with me?”

Later that night, you jolt out of a fitful sleep in a cold sweat, that inner critic screaming, “What did I do to deserve this,” “how could they do that to me,” “they should have known better,” and “what makes me so gullible?”

What a pickle!  You have to say no to something.  There just isn’t time. So do you say no to sleep, exercise, or those understanding friends and family who once again are the ones you have to disappoint, all because you didn’t stand up for yourself?

Maybe you’ve even asked yourself, “Why do I allow others to dump on me, treat me poorly and take advantage of me?” Yet, you know you can choose how you respond, you just don’t know how to do it so nobody gets hurt — especially yourself!

It sounds like you have a “boundary issue” when:

Relationships at work, and with family or friends are never simple, are they? But one thing they shouldn’t be is consistently stressful. Are you living with the fear of “what are they going to dump on me next?”

Deep down inside you may feel that something is wrong, somehow you are defective, somehow you HAVE TO say yes or somebody’s going to get mad! As a result, you just don’t challenge the status quo.

Isn’t it time to stop shrinking in response to someone else’s insults, demands and down-right inexcusable behavior?  
Imagine finding the courage to be fine saying no and stand strong without having to get nasty or angry.  It’s entirely possible. In fact, it’s not even particularly difficult when you know the verbal and nonverbal secrets to successfully deal with difficult people and learn to set boundaries that people actually respect and respect you for setting them.

Make April 13th the day you start the New You and join Competitive Edge Communications Success Series when it presents:

How To Set Boundaries Without Damaging Relationships, Sacrificing Sales or Sabotaging Your Career

Bossy-50Stop allowing the rudeness of others to become your problem. Stop fading away, wondering how you are going to make yet another “little request” work.

Join me, Sharon Sayler, founder of Competitive Edge Communications and behavioral communications expert, for this small-group (10 max) hands-on, one-day workshop, for your opportunity to learn to say “no” in ways that preserve the relationship either on the job or at home.

Look, I know from personal experience just how difficult it can be to overcome boundary problems without outside help. On April 13th, I’ll walk you through how to stop getting mad with yourself or others and instead how to set boundaries with ease and grace.

  • You will learn how to set boundaries with conviction, courage and calm, not hesitancy, aggression and fear.
  • You will once and for all feel in control of your time, your talent and your life.
  • Just think of what the inability to set boundaries has cost you so far in deadlines being missed, important work not getting done, poor communication, decreased teamwork, hurt feelings, increased stress and relationships lost — maybe even a high loss-rate in your personal relationships too.

    Refuse to give the demanding, hurtful people of this world any of your personal power by joining me in Manhattan on April 13th for this small group (limit 10), hands-on, one-day workshop to learn the art of saying no, so others know you mean business, know you care and you are not going to do what they ‘demand’ you do.

    Learn the principles and research-based techniques that you can immediately use to comfortably say “No” and you will learn how to influence the best in others and communicate with confidence.

    You will leave this one-day workshop knowing the essential communication skills to:

  • Know how to say “no” with ease.  Imagine feeling comfortable and in control speaking to anyone about anything without conflict.
  • Build permission, safety and trust in relationships without saying a word by using proven techniques of gesture, posture, and voice to increase your influence and rapport.
  • Systematically utilize the full range of communication management skills to reinforce consistent and fair parameters while preserving your relationships, regardless of unique situations, personality styles or cultural backgrounds.
  • Knowing how to say “no” with grace and ease is one soft-skill that will immediately produce hard and fast results.
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    You will have in hand well-defined, simple and easy-to-implement techniques on how to use personal boundaries without conflict, without damaging relationships, sacrificing sales or sabotaging your career. It’s time to find the courage and believe in yourself, even if it’s for just one day.

    On April 13th, you will find the courage to:

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    Make April 13th the start of a new way of being. Stop allowing the rudeness of others to become your downfall and let me personally show you How To Set Boundaries Without Damaging Relationships, Sacrificing Sales or Sabotaging Your Career by putting my two decades of hard-won lessons and experience to work on YOUR dreams, YOUR plans, YOUR life.

    If working hands-on in a very small group with me, and people struggling just like you to set boundaries that people respect would give you greater clarity about boundaries, dealing with anger with confidence, saying no with comfort, knowing how to say yes when you want to, and having the techniques and a plan to set boundaries and achieve your goals faster and with less effort is what you need to be doing now, grab your opportunity now as it is one-day only – this April 13th.

    Join me as we choose to

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    Remember, there are only 10 spaces available so register now – it’s super easy with my “Easy-To-Work-With” approach – just see below….  I am dedicated to your success and I know you can do this…  so to spend one-on-one time with you I’m limiting this class to ten.

     

    DETAILS:

    Date April 13th, 2013
    Time 8am – 3pm  Working Lunch included
    Location Mid-town Manhattan
    I’ll make it super simple for you.

    The early bird investment is US$397

    This is a $300 early bird discount from the normal price of US$697 and only applies until March 17, 2013.

    All registrations after March 17, 2013 will be at the standard investment of US$697.

    As per my ‘Easy To Work With’ coaching principle, you can register right now using the red REGISTER NOW button above, right now, to confirm your place on April 13th and pay with a credit card.ORReply to this email and provide us with:Your name, job position and full contact details including phone number and email address.Tell me to “Please reserve a seat for me and hold my early-bird savings for up to 7 days.I need to get approval from my company and will confirm my participation within 7 days (including weekends), then pay right away to reserve my spot.”With THE HOLD MY SPOT option, you agree that you know participation is limited to 10 people so you will inform connect@sharonsayler.com as soon as you know you can come so that everyone can get a fair turn.Please don’t hold a spot you have no intention of using to attend the live, hands-on, small group, one-day workshop on How To Set Boundaries Without Damaging Relationships, Sacrificing Sales or Sabotaging Your Career, April 13th in Mid-town Manhattan. That wouldn’t be fair to every other person wanting to attend.

    Now is a great time to step to the edge of your comfort zone and finally learn how to set boundaries without damaging relationships, sacrificing sales or sabotaging your career.

    Enjoying the adventure together,

    To Success!

    Sharon Sayler, MBA, ACC, CEC

    P.S.  Isn’t it finally time you conquered it once and for all? And if you want some backup, some support, some temporary permission, I have it. I believe in you even if you don’t yet.

    What other professional women are saying about working with Sharon:

    “Never have I been made so aware of precisely who I am and the countenance I present when communicating at a professional level, with immediate effect my life changed and significantly for the better. There are other coaches and techniques but none stand by comparison to the teaching of Sharon!”  ~Efrat Cohen L.P.I., C.I.T.R.M.S, President, Global Intelligence Consultants


    “…Sharon helped me with a short presentation I had to give.  Her keen observation coupled with her understanding of non-verbal communication translates into a powerful coaching style that is both direct yet gentle. I would highly recommend her services to anyone committed to excellence. Her area of expertise is very unique and critical to anyone who presents or does public speaking.”  ~Tricia Neves, President, San Diego, CA www.hiringbydesign.com


    “Your approach worked like a charm!  It was fabulous having a very easy mental “flow chart” directing me what path to choose in speaking with them after a brief introduction…”  ~Debbie Cason, Manager of Client Services, Macroeconomic Advisers


    “I want to thank you so much. I have become more aware of my body language and now consciously try to correct myself with your useful tips. You have impacted me much more than you may have realized. I really feel as if you have helped guide me towards a better career path that is aligned with my ultimate goal: owning a wellness retreat. Thank you again!” ~ Naomi Mariano


    “Sharon, Chris and I are amazed that those simple changes can make of world of difference in how we communicate. Thank you.” ~ C. Cannella