My good friend Angela Carr Patterson, The Love Lifestyle Coach ( www.thelovelifestyle.com ) wrote this great post for her blog last week. I wanted to share her insights with you, she has graciously agreed to be a guest blogger.
I find this “issue” she writes about not just a woman talking with their man communication problem. As you read Angela’s insights, consider that it’s not a specific gender issue. Command and control communication can be brought home by either gender. If you manage people all day long, leave those management skills at the office. Your personal partner didn’t fall in love with a manager, firefighter, teacher, solider, they fell in love with you.
If you value communication consider Angela’s insights and share your thoughts with me on the comments section.
As I began to look a little deeper into this topic, I discovered the reason why so many powerful and successful women are having a difficult time in finding a real man.
In other words, we not only competed with the men, we became them. And while yes, we became what the world would deem as successful and powerful, but for many of us, it was achieved at a great cost. We gave up who we really are… our true feminine selves.
So when our “good man” showed up in our lives and didn’t stay very long, we automatically assumed that he was intimidated by our success. But in reality, he came looking for a woman (feminine energy) and what he found was himself (masculine energy), disguised as a woman.
While many women think there maybe times in their lives when they need to actualize their masculine energy in the workplace, it is important to remember that only your feminine energy and power will attract and keep a “real man.” It’s not your masculine, material power or success that a real man is seeking, it’s your true power of the feminine energy that he so desires and needs. Your masculine side has no place in your relationships.
Finding a good man is more about “being” than it is about “doing.” The masculine is active, the feminine is passive, the masculine is dynamic, and the feminine is magnetic. The masculine does while the feminine is. We want a masculine man, but we will never have one unless we become the feminine woman we were created to be.
Our real worth and our real power is not in our material power or success, it is in our feminine authentic self. A real man is not hard to find…but a real woman is.