Sharon Sayler


I woke up this morning to the most beautiful sunrise. I took a few minutes and sat on the balcony to take in the sunrise and my morning chai. You know, it was just what I needed. It was perfect.

Speaking of perfect, have you ever noticed how many of us want the holidays to be perfect?

What the heck is ‘perfect’ anyway? Is it the Norman Rockwell vision of everyone sitting ’round the table with a Martha Stewart turkey? I don’t think I could get that color on a turkey even if I spray-painted it. And who invented brussels sprouts anyway?

Over my morning tea, I pondered ways to make the holidays perfect. Here are 3 ways I came up with. I’m sure there are more, please share yours in the comment section below.

#1 Use your eyebrows. Remember, just because you are asked a stupid (or otherwise) question, it doesn’t mean you have to answer it. If you really want to be bold, a well-timed raised eyebrow and a flash of direct eye-contact just about says it all.

#2 Sit at the kids table. It’s always more fun and the conversation more carefree. “Get the wiggles out at the table by providing a small squeeze toy,” says Janet Allison, ( author and founder of Boys Alive! Thanks, Janet, we all get the “wiggles” when we would rather be doing something else….

#3 Keep breathing. Shallow or rapid breathing activates your fight, flight or freeze response. Extend your exhale. It’s during the exhale that your body relaxes. Focus on your breathing also keeps you present in the moment. Stress only happens when our thoughts take us to a past painful event or an expectation of a similar event in the future.  Enjoy each moment as it unfolds, you just might surprise yourself with how stress-free staying present can be.

So there you have it, my 3 chai and sunrise inspired tips to have a perfect holiday…. If you’re celebrating Thanksgiving this week, I wish you a perfect (whatever that means to you) one; and for all, here and around the world, wishing you joy and abundance always.

I am honored that you have chosen to be part of my community and I am able to share and work with you to reach your goals, bring out your “perfect” and create the life of your dreams — that is what makes what I do perfect!

Have a great week whatever your adventure.
To Success! To Life!

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2 comments on “How to have a perfect holiday
  1. Great tips, Sharon.. .

    My favorite way to handle awkward conversation is to take a ‘time out’: Before dinner or at the dinner table you can always say a simple, “Excuse me, I’ll be back,” walk into the bathroom, close the door, take a few deep breaths and strategize: “OK, how do I want to handle this? What is my plan of action here?”

    More of my tips at

    Happy Holidays!

    • Thank you Elayne for sharing.

      I’m a strong advocate of breathing!! Sounds cornball because we do it all the time… It is the perfect reboot button though.

      Love your post and your “handle” Queen of Rejection. My two favs, of course one was about breathing….

      – This is a good time for a deep breath. Maybe several. Breathing slowly ten times will usually help to take the charge off of the situation.

      – By the way, ignoring her negative behavior helps to extinguish it.

      You are so right about both!! Enjoy and thank you for sharing.

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