What the heck is perfect anyway? Is it the Norman Rockwell vision of everyone sitting ’round the table with a Martha Stewart turkey? I don’t think I could get that color on a turkey even if I spray-painted it.
And who invented brussels sprouts anyway?
Rule #2: Size of Ask x Time = # of Yes(es) possible…
Size of Ask: Those experts in “pester power” have “center-of-the-universe’itis” and they most often think they are being perfectly reasonable in asking just one more favor of you.
Time: How often have you heard “It will only take a minute…” and learned that…..
Silence Is More Than Golden – It’s When You Look Most Intelligent To Your Audience Dear Sharon, I belong to (an international speakers training group). When it’s my turn to give a presentation, they count my “ums, ahs and uhs,” which is good. Problem is, I can’t stop them! I actually think it gets worse […]
Jerry Seinfeld once shared, “At a funeral, most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.” Too true! That’s fear, yet most people say things like, “Oh, I’m not a good public speaker,” or “I wouldn’t know what to say…”. That’s FEAR talking…. I’ve had clients that know certain suggestions I make […]
I brought this out of the archives as it’s as relevant today as it was in 2013 when I first wrote this Q&A. Those that know us the best are the most skilled at getting past our “defenses” and we can be emotionally manipulated… Hi Sharon, I have a hard time setting boundaries with family/friends/coworkers […]
I always love being on Laurie Lawson’s Show The Coaching Game, tonight we shared not only my work with body language we got to share about Pinky Chenille and the Rainbow Hunters. Here’s Laurie’s description of the show: World-renown body language expert Sharon Sayler has created an entire colorful family to coach children ages 3 […]
I have no problem saying ”no” most of the time but I find myself using the wrong words and tone of voice. So I come across as being uncooperative and not a “team player” because I don’t communicate as eloquently as I would prefer when choosing to say ”no”. Any tips you can share? Good question Lynn…
Hello Sharon, I want to thank you again for speaking to our group on Thursday night. I enjoyed hearing your insights and am fascinated by this topic. I wish I had thought to ask you this question as I’m hoping you have an opportunity to help me with this…. I’ve experienced this recently: I’m in a meeting […]
Often I get questions that I find are relevant to many of my community, like this one…. Dear Sharon, “How do I ask (and get) a raise and promotion?” Great question! I actually hear this often with my clients, we often practice this conversation just to be ready. The five ‘winning preps’ I share below […]
I shared in my last post that my #1 rule for dealing with difficult people is DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY. And almost immediately, I heard real life war stories from many of you wonderful readers about your own struggles with difficult people. It is a touchy and subjective topic for sure. In my experience, there […]