Saying ‘yes’ when you mean ‘no’ is a boundary issue. Some boundaries can be easily recognized, other boundaries can be stealth…. Those recognized and those that are stealth differ for everyone based on past experiences, unconscious bias, limited beliefs etc. A common boundary issue I see plays out like this: You are overwhelmed with demands […]
‘Fake It Until You Make It’ Never Works because FAKING IS FAKING, let me explain~
How you talk to yourself is directly reflected in your nonverbal communication. You can’t stop it, how you feel – ‘fake’ie’ – comes through loud and clear…. You say ‘fake it,’ and your mind does just that, IT FAKES IT.
Did you know that 90 to 95% of what we do comes from habit or the unconscious mind. That’s HUGE! It’s necessary too. Imagine having to tell yourself having to breathe in – breathe out….
I was completely distracted last week, my local broadband provider decided I had cancelled my account… I had not. There are 2 ways to fix everything — my broadband service originally choose the first way, the immediate “fix.” To them, I had cancelled my service, and “there was nothing that could be done.” According to […]
With the birth of the first child of Catherine and Prince William, the Duchess and Duke of Cambridge, there is much talk of the baby’s future and the legacy of his family. Not all of us can leave a legacy of the British throne, but we can leave a powerful legacy in other ways. The […]
Why Familiarity Rarely Breeds Contempt… There is an old saying: “Familiarity breeds contempt.” Yes, it’s true, familiarity can breed contempt. The longer we are around someone or something, the more inclined we are to find fault with it, but it rarely starts that way. Every day my friend ‘Debbi’ (changed name) and I would have […]
Love the holidays, but hate those family gatherings? It’s that time of year again, but amidst your well-wishes and season’s greetings do you ever find yourself praying that a certain family member just won’t show up this year or dreading the hours of shopping you’ll have to do to make sure everyone gets the perfect […]
Understanding the unconscious messages you send and how they harm or enhance your part in conflict can determine your career future. On April 24th, join Sharon Sayler, MBA, CEC, behavioral communications expert and founder of Competitive Edge Communications for more information on defusing workplace conflict through what you say and how you say it, join our webinar: Courage under Fire: How to Defuse Conflict in the Workplace presented on April 24.
What the heck is perfect anyway? Is it the Norman Rockwell vision of everyone sitting ’round the table with a Martha Stewart turkey? I don’t think I could get that color on a turkey even if I spray-painted it.
And who invented brussels sprouts anyway?
Rule #2: Size of Ask x Time = # of Yes(es) possible…
Size of Ask: Those experts in “pester power” have “center-of-the-universe’itis” and they most often think they are being perfectly reasonable in asking just one more favor of you.
Time: How often have you heard “It will only take a minute…” and learned that…..
Jerry Seinfeld once shared, “At a funeral, most people would rather be in the casket than giving the eulogy.” Too true! That’s fear, yet most people say things like, “Oh, I’m not a good public speaker,” or “I wouldn’t know what to say…”. That’s FEAR talking…. I’ve had clients that know certain suggestions I make […]